I’m always pleasantly surprised every time I learn something new. About myself. About my children. And mostly about this parenting thing. Today I was reflecting on how much my view point has dramatically changed now that I’ve been a parent for almost 3 years (yikes!). And what I’ve noticed is how things disturb me way more than they used to. I find things non-amusing that once used to be amusing. And basically I’m slipping comfortably into these new parental lenses that has changed my entire outlook on…life i guess.
It all started when I was driving to get myself coffee, and I had a few minutes to myself in the car, and decided to do something that I normally never do with my children in the car…I turned on the radio. I tuned into the most popular channels, just browsing for the hell of it as I haven’t listened to music in years. I’m not completely unfamiliar with who’s popular these days, so I immediately recognized the song playing (a very popular artist and song) and began listening. The lyrics of the song were so ridiculous. And the entire time I was thinking, Why is this song so popular? This is the dumbest song ever!! And so I continued to switch through the channels, and got frustrated because all the songs sounded equally as ridiculous.
And then it dawned on me that either the songs have all become this ridiculous now, or they always have been and my opinion about them has changed. And I’m pretty sure that the latter is true. I just kept thinking how I never want my daughters to hear this kind of, well, trash. And just like that, I’ve become every protective parent, and now I view everything with the same question in the backdrop, Would I let my kids see/hear this?
I still have to get used to having these parental lenses that kind of come with the package of raising children. But it has one really big advantage and that is, I’m striving to become a little bit better because of them. My first instinct when I do/say something, is my children will see me doing that, and they will internalize it and quite possibly do the same thing. So I don’t really have a choice here, I have to be a better example.
Parenting is hard, parenting is tough. The physical parts of carrying, giving birth and taking care of a child are all very straining bits of parenthood. But I think the hardest part of it all, is the raising them part. Bringing up little people who want to be just like you, when you don’t feel like you are good enough to be admired, yet that’s what children do. We never stop admiring and looking at our parents as examples, I still do to this day.
Have you ever had a moment when you realized you now have parental lenses that you see through? Share in the comments!