“Mummy, are you Ridha’s friend?”
Tonight at bedtime, my daughters and I were going through the motions of our bedtime routine. We were reading our storybook, when suddenly my eldest daughter, Ridha turns to me and says, “Mummy, tum Ridha ki friend ho?” which translates to: “Mummy, are you Ridha’s friend?” [She uses third person a lot when she speaks] My heart melted for my little girl. Of course I am, I’m your best friend, I explained to her in our language [Urdu].
I tried to retrace her thought process of why she asked me this question in the first place. We were reading one of her favorite books before bed, “Fancy Nancy Tea For Two“. In the story, Nancy visits her best friend Bree’s house for a tea party. [I sometimes read these stories to my daughters by translating them to Urdu, so that they can understand them.] When we got to the part of the story where Nancy and Bree have an argument, Ridha turned to me and asked me this question. But the way she asked me is what truly got me, because she was so hopeful that I would say yes.
I couldn’t help but wonder how long this will last…my friendship with my daughters.
I know there will be times when our friendship will be tried and challenged. Sometimes it may weaken. Sometimes parenthood will step in and take the place of friendship.
But for now, I’ll let myself enjoy their inclination to be with me, play with me, eat with me, sit with me, read with me, and most of all chat with me.
What are some things your child has asked you? I’m always amazed by their little minds.